When I was thinking to post an article for Mother's Day I wanted to do something different. Instead of me talking about Mother's and my perspective I thought to myself that these words should come from the heart of a Mom.
So I have asked Tara Sanderson from Raw & Twisted Expressive VENT-a-lation System to write something about mother's Day and what it means to her.
Mom, Mommy, mother, mama, mum…what does
that one word mean. Notice I didn’t say “one little word”? It has to be the
biggest word I know!! It is also the most profound and meaningful word known to
mankind.
For some it’s a negative but for the
majority the word MOM is a symbol of all things kind, nurturing, strong, warm,
creative, giving…and the list could go on forever!!!
Being a mom is the highest honor and
greatest responsibility anyone could have. Sure the president can run the
country, the PM can make life-changing decisions, a soldier can fight for
his/her country but a mother molds those men and women to be whom they are.
Good or bad!
Being a mom is at times a struggle, you
want your child to be healthy, polite, well off, safe and responsible….but most
of all you want them to be happy!! It’s
not an easy task to be a mom. I don’t say job because it isn’t, it’s a right, a
duty, and honor! It’s the most heartbreaking yet most rewarding thing a woman
could do! Often times our kids will take things out on us and direct all anger
our way…It’s hurtful yes, but it’s also their way of saying “I’m safe with you
and you will love me even if I am being a complete jerk to you”. You see our
children need to know that mom will still love them even when they act
unlovable. But they also need us to teach them when they are wrong. We do
however want the next PM/President/ Soldier/teacher/etc, to be an honorable
person who can be counted on, trusted, and know what is right and what is wrong
don’t we?
When a child grows up they will then not
only still be our child but our friend. I had the privilege of become quite
close to my mommy as an adult. My mommy passed suddenly at age 51….. 4 years
ago, and the emptiness I have in my heart will never go away, it won’t ever
heal because I don’t want it too! I want to always feel the strong pain of
needing my mommy. I hope my kids will always love and remember me with such
passion when my time comes.
Some of us didn’t have the privilege of
growing up with a mother for one reason or another, so I plead to women out
there who know someone without a mother to reach out…to “adopt” that person be
it child, teenager, or adult. Give what you have been given; be a mother in one
way or another, you may never know what that could mean to someone, or how that
someone could enrich your life as well!
There are also single mothers out there,
regardless of how they got there ….show compassion, support and understanding.
They deal with enough judgment and struggle that just a simple gesture would
mean the world to them and give them a boost of power and confidence to carry
on the already hard task of raising children. Who are we to judge?
Finally I want to reach out to children
(even children who are mothers as well) Honor your mom, even if she had a hard
time raising you, or she seemed “unfair, distant, unavailable” there are so
many things standing in the way of allowing moms to be moms now a days that we
need to just look past hurts, misunderstandings and such to find a way to move
forward to healing the relationship. Regret is a hard thing to come to terms
with when you lose a mother, be it death, distance, or loss of relationship.
I challenge you this mother’s day…Men,
Woman, Boys and Girls…Thank your mom and open the doors to communication,
understanding, compassion and acceptance but mostly to love! And not just
Mother’s day…everyday!!!!!
~T~
